I am Responsible

June 21, 2017

Have you heard of the Cause and Effect Principle?

Hey guys, day 30 coming at you, we are talking about responsibility and who’s responsible? 

Guess what? I’m responsible! Who’s responsible? We are all responsible. So here’s what I want to talk to you about today. A couple of key points with being responsible. If you want your life to change, you must take 100% not a little percent, not some percent, not most percent, 100% responsibility for your life. If you don’t, you’re not gonna be able to change. There is the cause and effect principle. And if you are not responsible, you cannot cause.

We’re talking about responsibility. If you want to be the cause in your life, then you got to be responsible. If you aren’t the cause, then you must settle as being affected. 

Do you want to be affected? Or do you want to be the cause? It’s the cause and effect principle.  We must take 100% responsibility.

The other thing is understanding that everything and when I say everything, I mean, everything is your fault. Isn’t that crazy? We were thought about it that way that your life is your own fault. 

It’s your fault, too. It’s all of our own faults. It is all of our fault. Now what I mean by that is basically everything where you live, would you do for a living? Everything, anything that that any asset facet of your life, your relationships, your income, your happiness level, all of that is your fault. And so that’s not always a fun pill to swallow, understanding, everything is your fault, where you work where you live, where you play, your friends, it’s all your fault. 

But if you take responsibility, and you realize, you know what, it is my fault, you can actually do something about it. That’s what I wanted to talk to you guys about today. This new mantra, this new idea, of saying to the world, I am responsible? You know, I was just talking to a friend of mine. They let me borrow their keys the other day. And I’m like, Alright, I got the keys, key to the house, key to the car. And I lost them. Dang it. I felt like crap, right. But I had to own up to it, I had to be responsible, I am responsible for this. I found out what I did wrong. And I know what I’m going to do differently in the future. But I had to be responsible for that. I’ve also had to be responsible for some real estate deals that didn’t go so well. And now at the moment, I could have turned into a victim I could have been doing it. My partner didn’t do this. My partner didn’t do that it didn’t turn out, victim victim victim. But instead, because I’ve been working on my mind, my mind of steel, I said, I am I responsible. Who’s responsible? I am responsible. So by taking responsibility, it actually turned out to be a deal in my favor. And I was able to take advantage of it and move forward. I did not turn into the victim mode. 

Okay, the other thing about being responsible, which being responsible means not using victim language. Not using blame. Blame is lame. If you guys know that blame is lame, stay away from the blame. It gives away your personal power. Being 100% responsible is not using justifications either, it’s not using complaints, okay? It is taking 100% responsibility is saying “I own this.” “I own this!” “ If it is to be it is up to me.”

 Okay, so it’s also taking responsibility for your body. And how that’s functioning for you. Right? are you dragging your ass in the morning, and it takes you an hour and a half and four cups of coffee to get going? Well, that’s your responsibility and that’s your fault. There are ways for you to be full of energy and ready to go right when the day starts. So you got to just say I am responsible.

 I am responsible, who’s responsible? I am responsible!

 Beautiful. Being accurate with your words is your responsibility. 

Now the last exercise I want to challenge you guys to do is have some I want to ask you a few questions about your responsibility. It’s not always easy, but having this mindset and understanding, okay, if everything’s my fault, and a situation or scenario doesn’t turn out in my favor, then the real question is, how did I create that? What did I do to create that? So, have a buddy ask you that? What did you do to create this? And then have them witness your answer? What did you do to create this? What could you have done differently to get that outcome different? What did you do or not do to cause this result? And have them ask you few responsibility questions, and then own it, do your best to not turn into a victim? Do your best not turn into blame? Or to justify or blame anyone else.

What you got some questions going on? 

Can you tell me where you are? 

Joanne, I’m at my friend’s house. We’re putting in some work, we are responsible for our own leads, we are responsible. We are responsible for our own marketing. So we’re taking some responsibility. And, putting the project together. I’m in Denver right now. 

“I am definitely responsible for who I am. And I am also not very happy with myself because of it, but I accept it.”

 Well, you got to own it, man, I see what you’re saying. I definitely feel you, you got to own it. And you are responsible. 

One thing I like about hanging out with these guys back here is if something goes awry in the project or what we’re working on, then everyone is quick to take responsibility. It’s there’s no finger-pointing here. Right? finger-pointing is lame, right? Think about the old cliche of Hey, if you point your finger at someone, three fingers are pointing back at you. So, there’s no finger-pointing here. Everyone takes responsibility. They own it. Right? Hey, why didn’t this happen? Someone puts their hand in there, oh, I’m responsible. That was me. I’m committed to change. And we can move forward, we keep the energy high, and we’re constantly making progress. 

So own it. Next time someone, someone says something or the ball gets dropped at work or at the house or wherever.  Say it, say “I am responsible” and own it. You’ll feel great about it. I’ve surprised a lot of guests. Or a lot of people come over to my house or they were hanging out for the first time with some new friends. And again, something goes awry. And I go, Well, I’m responsible. I’ll take it. And then another friend goes, Oh, no, I’m responsible. And the new friend is like, what? This is the most responsible group I’ve ever hung out with. Okay, so you want to have this reputation of being responsible leaders are responsible. And that’s, that’s, that’s a major key. It’s your fault. It’s all good. You are the cause, not the effect. And it’s not the blowing of the wind. What is it? It’s the set of the sail. Alright guys, thanks for tuning in. 

Thanks for playing it. I love the comments. I love seeing your names pop up here. Appreciate you plugging in. This is Dave 30. Remember to be responsible. It’s easy to it’s also easy not to. 

So take back your existence, or die like a punk. 

Pamela is responsible for all of her choices. They are all part of who she’s become. Even the bad ones have paved the way for future success. That’s exactly it. That’s exactly it. If you’re responsible, then there really are no bad choices. Right? It’s just a stepping stone in the direction you needed to go. 

100% responsibility. It is Yours!  Go out there, take it! It is day 30! This is the plan for success. I’m happy to add value to you. Thanks for plugging in and share this video if you like it. Alright guys, take care. 

Have a good night. 

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